I agree with your point that black women are no more combative or defensive than women of other races, but the reality is that we do have certain cultural differences–every culture is unique, and that's what makes the world interesting.

Another reality is that the vast majority of black women actually do prefer black men (just like most members of any other race prefer to be with their own). I believe you and your group of friends are the minority.

Lastly, your point about white men not responding to your advances contradicts your earlier point about white men secretly desiring black women yet being afraid to approach. If a man desires a woman and she approaches first, would he not jump at the chance to date her?

I hate to see a sister misinformed, especially on a topic as sensitive as race. I just hope you haven't already compromised too much of your integrity in your pursuit of white men who may view you as beneath them.

From another educated black and very approachable single woman

And yes, a lot of these guys are too weak to make their intentions known upfront.
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It's definitely not an arrangement suitable for everyone though, which is why men or women who want a casual sex relationship should make their boundaries and intentions clear. People also have the responsibility to be honest with themselves. If you want a relationship but he's made it clear that he's interested in a FWB type of situation then don't have sex with him anyway hoping he "changes his mind". That is a faulty decision making on the woman's part.

If you're unsure about his intentions and you'd like to know ASK A QUESTION.

A little bit of integrity and communication can solve a multitude of problems.

I dont know when baby mama going to get the point! His baby mama took fertility pills to get pregnant thinking that she was going to keep him around. Little do she know she pushed him right into my loving arms.

I would never have a child just to keep a man! After taking her fertility pills to get pregnant and having a baby he still dont want her. Her baby daddy "My man " and her son is over my house at least four nights out the week.

I'm not pregnant and havent had any of his kids. while she thought she was going to keep him by having a child and raising hell after he stop fucking with her. All her plans failed she gotta the boo boo face and I'm smiling.

THANK YOU GOD THAT THIS BLOG IS OUT! BABY MAMA"S NEED TO NOTICE WHEN HE DONT WANT YOU ANY MORE!!!!!!